Saying the phrase “I’m going to go visit a therapist” is not the first sentence we are used to hearing when we meet someone. In fact, someone who is seeing a therapist may not even tell another person at all throughout the course of the relationship. However, our culture of silencing mental health issues must change in order to solve the crisis that many adolescents face every day: anxiety and depression.Read more
With a smile, I opened the front door to greet my two oldest children home from elementary school. Right away I noticed my fourth-grader’s slumped shoulders. I noticed how she dragged her feet as she climbed the front steps. I knew it had not been a good day for her at school.Read more
“If you get it out, put it away. If you turn it on, turn it off. If you take it off, hang it up.” These are the mantras that echoed through my childhood home as my father reminded us children over and over again to pick up after ourselves.
I remember trying to keep these things in mind when I was young, but still having the messiest room in the house; I was always the one that got reprimanded because I would walk in from school and immediately drop all my stuff on the kitchen floor.Read more
We stopped nagging our children about their homework weeks before school actually ended; and keeping a decent bedtime is increasingly more difficult as the sun stays in the sky just a bit longer each night.
Thankfully, summer is here, and most of us have really good intentions and a second-wind of purpose. We hope for family activities, organized fun, fight-free afternoons, stacks of finished books and swim towels that hang up themselves.
During summer break, we are trying to balance all the kids’ activities with our own — all the while knowing kids without a school schedule often means chaos in our homes. As parents, we can easily our lose sanity in the summer, and it won’t be long before we find ourselves burned out — again.
Keeping a system of organization with your kids and in your home this summer can help ward off that burned-out feeling a bit longer, but even those systems can seem daunting. What are some easy ways to create order?
Success starts with setting realistic expectations — both expectations of what we require from our kids as well as what our kids can expect from us, in terms of activities and support.Read more
I shall never forget that day. It was early in the morning and I was walking down the stairs and out of the corner of my eye I saw a menacing shadow. I paused midstep with my foot hanging in the air and looked down. There was a scorpion. If I had taken one more step, I would have likely been stung. Needless to say, the scorpion was dispatched outside rather quickly. Scorpions creep me out.Read more
As the Executive Director for Hope4Utah I have the opportunity to travel the state working with schools, agencies and communities in suicide prevention. Over the past month my phone, emails and trips to the grocery store have been inundated with questions about the Netflix series, “13 reasons Why.” The questions and concerns are valid. I have not watched the series, nor do I plan to. However, I have heard enough from my colleagues and others that I believe I have a pretty good understanding of the content.Read more
Parenting Lessons From A Ten Year Old
"Oh Mom, that is so sad!" said ten-year-old Porter when he got in the car after our fun family night activity.
"What is so sad Porter?" I inquired.
"That little boy, only about three years old, in the car next to us didn't want to get in his car seat, so he started fighting his dad and yelling. Then the dad said, 'Here, have the phone.' As soon as the dad said that, the little boy got quiet. Dads shouldn't reward their children for bad behaviors and shouldn't give their children adult tools, like phones, to play with as toys Mom."Read more
“So what exactly is self-government?” a woman asked me one day.
“It is a principle of freedom that is taught by parents to their children. The parents create an environment that is filled with a loving, calm tone and a firm structure based on skills and cause and effect. This environment helps children take control of their own behaviors and have a change of heart while helping parents correct and teach children in a safe, calm and deliberate way.” I explained.Read more
Why can it be so hard to stay positive? Why is it so easy to get sucked into the negativity trap? Unless there is some force to the contrary, Mother Nature’s default is downhill. Mountains erode, buildings crumble, roads deteriorate, bridges eventually collapse. Rain falls, hits the ground, and flows downhill.Read more
When my husband and I got married, he had four kids between the ages of four and twelve. My husband’s first wife had died in an accident a few years earlier. I had been a teacher and went from living on my own, to married with four kids overnight.Read more