“So what exactly is self-government?” a woman asked me one day.
“It is a principle of freedom that is taught by parents to their children. The parents create an environment that is filled with a loving, calm tone and a firm structure based on skills and cause and effect. This environment helps children take control of their own behaviors and have a change of heart while helping parents correct and teach children in a safe, calm and deliberate way.” I explained.Read more
Why can it be so hard to stay positive? Why is it so easy to get sucked into the negativity trap? Unless there is some force to the contrary, Mother Nature’s default is downhill. Mountains erode, buildings crumble, roads deteriorate, bridges eventually collapse. Rain falls, hits the ground, and flows downhill.Read more
When my husband and I got married, he had four kids between the ages of four and twelve. My husband’s first wife had died in an accident a few years earlier. I had been a teacher and went from living on my own, to married with four kids overnight.Read more
It’s the 30 minutes right before you send your kids out the door and off to elementary school that just might do you in — and the day has only just begun.Read more
The story is told of the mother who had a picture of a large ship in her living room. She was baffled when her sons went off to sea. A man commented that she had been influencing her sons by having this picture that they looked at every day.Read more
While flying 23,000 feet above the earth through clouds and sky the world looks a bit different. The small aircraft is surrounded by parts of the atmosphere. While on the ground it is easy to think of earth as separate from atmosphere even though any science class would prove otherwise. But in the air in a small vehicle that is fairly vulnerable to the elements and the air currents and clouds, it is easy to feel at one with the atmosphere. At this height the plane is part of the sky and dependent upon the atmosphere for safety and direction.Read more
That day is seared in my memory. We were on a family vacation sitting in a fast food restaurant. We were a bit tired from touring the copper mine. And then my son did it. “Look Mom!” He showed me his tongue. Now I have to say, I was shocked and truly impressed. He would fold his tongue inside his mouth so it had four pockets. It was incredible!Read more
Lasting memories can easily be forgotten if they’re not recorded. Keeping a record of them will ensure that the precious parts of your family’s past don’t get forgotten. It doesn’t have to be hard to preserve lasting, meaningful memories— and it doesn't have to be so hard to make them either.Read more
Everyone is born with natural strengths, talents, gifts, traits and abilities. For some these “gifts” are more pronounced and obvious, while for others their gifts seem so subtle, so imperceptible that many don’t even notice that they exist. These more stealthy strengths, which operate below consciousness at times, quietly direct our lives, determining our interests and activity selection. They impact our quality of performance and our ability to cut through the challenges of life.Read more
One bright fall afternoon, long ago, at a self-improvement seminar, the speaker presented an overhead slide (that’s how long ago this was) which read:
Catch someone in the act of doing something right.
This simple idea hit my heart. As a young father, it was a message I very much needed to hear – and I knew it. More importantly, it was something I very much needed to do.Read more